90/10 Works for me, it will works with you too…
Few months ago, I received a Power Point presentation thru email from a friend, it’s about 90/10. Stepen Covey explained in the Power point what 90/10 means, it means that 90% of thing that happened to a person is within his own control and 10% is out of his control. There are things that are out of your control just like the rain, you can not control the rain from falling but you can control not to get wet from the rain in many different ways. Just like the financial crisis at the moment is out of our control, but the way we react, adjust and deal with it is within our own control.
I shared with you this stuff because it works for me and I have tried it for many times specially within my family life, I will share with you the same example as the author did.
You are having a breakfast with your family and your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee over your business shirt. You have no control on what had happened. What happened next will be determined by how you react. You curse, you scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding your daughter, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to the school. Because you are late you drive over the speed limit. After 15-minutes delay and a traffic fine for speeding, you arrived at the school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible, as it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrived home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter just because on how you reacted in the morning.
The chain of events that happened from the example of the author was the absolute result on how did you reacted over the first event, you have no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted on those few seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is how and should have happened:
Coffee splash over you, your daughter is about to cry, you gently say “Its okay kid, you just need to be more careful next time” Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Two different scenarios started on the same way but ended on a different ways in which the end results were based on how you reacted. I find pleasure in sharing it with other and also with my kids because it will help make life easy, remember a wrong reaction could result in losing a love one or getting stressed out……So control your emotions, think of the right things and lived at least 90 percent of a happy life …….
Few months ago, I received a Power Point presentation thru email from a friend, it’s about 90/10. Stepen Covey explained in the Power point what 90/10 means, it means that 90% of thing that happened to a person is within his own control and 10% is out of his control. There are things that are out of your control just like the rain, you can not control the rain from falling but you can control not to get wet from the rain in many different ways. Just like the financial crisis at the moment is out of our control, but the way we react, adjust and deal with it is within our own control.
I shared with you this stuff because it works for me and I have tried it for many times specially within my family life, I will share with you the same example as the author did.
You are having a breakfast with your family and your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee over your business shirt. You have no control on what had happened. What happened next will be determined by how you react. You curse, you scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding your daughter, you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing the cup to close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to the school. Because you are late you drive over the speed limit. After 15-minutes delay and a traffic fine for speeding, you arrived at the school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you realize you forgot your briefcase.
Your day has started terrible, as it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home. When you arrived home, you find a small wedge in your relationship with your wife and daughter just because on how you reacted in the morning.
The chain of events that happened from the example of the author was the absolute result on how did you reacted over the first event, you have no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted on those few seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is how and should have happened:
Coffee splash over you, your daughter is about to cry, you gently say “Its okay kid, you just need to be more careful next time” Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt. You grab your briefcase, and you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff.
Two different scenarios started on the same way but ended on a different ways in which the end results were based on how you reacted. I find pleasure in sharing it with other and also with my kids because it will help make life easy, remember a wrong reaction could result in losing a love one or getting stressed out……So control your emotions, think of the right things and lived at least 90 percent of a happy life …….
Cooloo: salamat,guru Eric
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